“But *I’d* Never Do That To Someone!”
As human beings we operate out of a Belief System based on factors including upbringing, environment, schooling, news media, television shows, movies, etc., etc., etc.
Our beliefs, paradigms, world-views, world-models, or whatever words we choose to utilize that really says, “this is how I see the world — it is my version of how the world operates” — is the sum total of all that we have experienced since birth.
As human beings, we also tend to believe that others see the world the same way we do. I mean, how could it be any different? We cannot intuitively see someone else’s view. So, we assume our view is also their view.
Or, as Judi Piani, author of the book, Trait Secrets says, “Normal is what *I* am.”
Yes, we think that others see the world as we see it. And, we are usually incorrect in that assumption. And, it confuses us.
Example: Have you ever felt wronged by someone and said to a friend, “I would never say that to someone.” Or, “I would never act like that.”
No, YOU wouldn’t. But they would, because that fits their world model.
This is one reason why taking the words and actions of others personally can be so counter-productive to our own sense of happiness and peace of mind.
Solution? No, we do not have to agree with their world view. We don’t even have to understand their world view.
We just need to understand that their world view is their world view, different from ours. And, that everything they think, feel, say and do will be be based on that frame or premise.
Now, we can be more at peace. After all, it isn’t us. It’s them.
Or, is it? 😉
On Tuesday, April 23rd I’ll be speaking in Memphis, Tennessee, at my friend, Don Hutson’s The Prosperity Series event. Then on Thursday, I’ll be speaking at the Think And Grow Rich Summit 2013 in Del Mar, California.
If you’ll be in either of those areas, I hope you can join us.