It’s The One Thing That Can Destroy Everything

“Can you believe I just heard from Dave in Marketing that Tom in Sales cheated on his expense report?”

“She told Bill that Diane told her that Steve wasn’t happy not being invited to the party?”

“Does Sue know that Dave had lunch with Mary?”

“I thought it was very uncool of Ben not to disclose that he once worked for the competing company.”

“Hey, did you hear what Pastor/Priest/Imam/Rabbi said?”

 

 
It’s happened to us all, hasn’t it? We’ve been hurt, burned, discouraged, disparaged and perhaps sabotaged by someone’s gossip.

Or, perhaps we have done it to someone else.

If Gossip is defined as: “The unnecessary use of harmful or hurtful words,” then it can never be a positive!

Of the many things I can think of in describing the destructive nature of gossip, I would say…

It’s The One Thing That Can Destroy Everything

It’s said that gossip destroys three people:

1. The one who speaks it. As one who used to speak gossip, I can tell you first-hand that not only does it eventually get back to that person, causing anger and hostility, but it saps just a bit of life out of the gossiper every time he or she speaks it. While it might feel good at the very moment you are speaking it, you soon realize that you spewed poison. Never a good feeling.
2. The one who it’s spoken about. For obvious reasons. It can destroy his or her reputation, and kill their good name.
3. The listener. He or she is passively accepting garbage into their brains that will change their thoughts, feelings and perhaps even relationships with people.

And the above is simply the tip of the iceberg.

Like A Stale Cookie Crashing On The Floor

You know that happy family, well-run organization, cohesive team or myriad other healthy units of people? Gossip can shatter it!

Gossip has ruined lives, assassinated personalities, split families, alienated friends and has even caused murder. And, it generally infects (and often fatally destroys) any type of organization where it is introduced.

As you can tell, I’m not a fan of gossip. Yet, as I alluded to earlier, for many, many years I myself was a gossip. There is nothing about it that makes me proud, and much about it I still regret. I hurt a lot of people, and damaged their reputations. But not nearly as much as I damaged mine.

Then Came The Decision To Change

Actually, first came awareness. Awareness that what I’d been doing was simply wrong. I won’t get into that discovery here but, let’s just say that, when it finally hit me, it hit me hard and I knew I had to change.

There was also a realization that it might not be as easy as I thought to break this habit.

Hence: A System

If you know me, you know I’m constantly speaking of systems. I define a system as “the process of predictably achieving a goal based on a logical and specific set of how-to principles.” Fortunately, there is no need to invent the wheel of breaking the gossip habit. I’ve learned it, and will gladly share it with you on this one-hour teleseminar.

In This One-Hour Teleseminar* You’ll Learn . . .

• 10 steps to eliminate gossip from your life.
• How to gently and tactfully discourage others from speaking it.
• How to turn gossip on its head by playing the “Reverse Gossip” game.
• How to know when it’s appropriate to ask for forgiveness and how to do so.
• When it IS necessary to share harmful or hurtful information about others and the guidelines to do it correctly.

 

 
Overcoming my gossip habit turned out to be the beginning of a huge change in my life and level of happiness. Whether you yourself have this habit and want to be rid of it forever, or you simply want to know how to help those you care about, let me share with you a system that works and that you can apply for the rest of your life.

One of the coolest things I ever hear people say about me is that they’ve never heard me say a bad word about anybody. Well, that’s actually not true. I certainly slip up from time-to-time. But, really, not too often. And, I hope to improve even more. It’s still a great compliment though, because that is not something that would have been said about me up until I turned about 35 years of age.

Best regards,

P.S. The asterisk * a few paragraph ago after my saying that the call would be an hour is because, while the teaching part is an hour, I’ll stay on the call for up to an hour for Q & A and discussion. And, like our teleseminar entitled, “Master Your Traits – Master Yourself” that hour was a lot of fun, and people found it to be very, very helpful.

P.P.S. The call will also be recorded so you can listen and re-listen as often as you’d like.