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Posts Tagged ‘reframing’

One of Those Huge Life Difference-Makers

Monday, June 25th, 2012

Jim RohnThere are certain wise teachings, learned over the years, that have stayed with me and added significantly to my life. They’ve also provided me with hope and strength when most needed.

Just one example is Jim Rohn’s (1930-2009) famous, “They just do” and his follow-up phrase, “it’s one of the mysteries of life.” This comes in very handy when upset over the negative actions of certain people. For example, you find out someone with whom you’ve done a business transaction lied to you. You are understandably very upset and even begin personalizing it.

You might even ask yourself, “why did he do that to me?” This typically leads to the big question…”why do people like him lie?”

Mr. Rohn’s answer was, “they just do.” “He’s a liar. Liars lie. He’s simply doing what liars do.” He would then add, “it’s one of the mysteries of life.” This also led me to embrace the saying, “It is what it is.”

Reframing a situation from something personal — or something you must analytically figure out — to “they just do” and “it’s one of the mysteries of life” can save a ton of  heartache, self-doubt, and mental torture that will lead to nowhere productive.

Please don’t confuse this with not taking action to protect yourself from people who do bad things or, if/when appropriate, rectifying the situation after it’s happened. Not at all.

However, the major lesson I received from Mr. Rohn in this example is to not let certain mysteries of life drive me insane trying to find a reason for something that is beyond my comprehension.

Again, please don’t confuse that with not trying to understand people, Universal Laws and other vitally important concepts. An important part of life, personal growth, and wisdom is indeed trying to understand as much as possible. But, there’s a certain point where attempting to understand something we cannot reasonably expect to understand crosses over the line into driving ourselves bananas.

For those human beings such as I who — by our very nature — can drive ourselves crazy by doing exactly that (and, admittedly, used to do so), Mr. Rohn’s sage advice can be a huge difference-maker, both in terms of personal effectiveness and peace of mind.

That’s just one of the many lesson’s I’ve learned from very wise people that has made a significant difference for me. I’ll share some others in future posts.

Meanwhile, what are some of the wise lessons you’ve learned that have made that kind of difference for you?

Damaged Hot Dog Buns and Other First World Tragedies

Monday, June 18th, 2012

The bottom of my hot dog bun is splitting open. #FirstWorldProblems
hot dog

I thought that was brilliant when I first saw it on Twitter, and still think it is. I also thought it was something new. Wrong about that one. Apparently, the concept of First World Problems has been around for a while. And, as usual, I was slow arriving to the game.

First World Problems, as defined on the website KnowYourMeme.com, are “frustrations and complaints that are only experienced by privileged individuals in wealthy countries. It is typically used as a tongue-in-cheek comedic device to make light of trivial inconveniences.”

There is even an extremely clever rap video on this topic that I believe is well-worth watching.

What an awesome lesson in reframing our thoughts and helping us to live in gratitude.

Basically, First World Problems are problems that those living in Third World countries would be delighted to have.

For example, while we might feel put-out because the gas tank is nearing empty and we need to stop at the gas station, a person whose biggest challenge today is surviving on less than a dollar a day would love to be in our position.

While we are annoyed at drinking a bottle of water because we’d rather have a soft drink, the Third World resident who must walk miles per day in order to find relatively clean water to drink for himself/herself and their family would gladly drink that water.

And, yes, I really did find myself annoyed at the ballgame the other night when my hot dog bun began to split at the bottom {mega-embarrassed even writing this!}.

First World Problems. Just thinking of them is enough to fill a person with…gratitude!

What are some of the First World Problems you experience that you’d like to share with us. I have a feeling we can get some great reframes, attitude shifts, and feelings of appreciation going with this.