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The *Thought-ful* Part of Feeding Our Minds

Friday, February 22nd, 2013

Tom ZiglarLast post, I quoted Tom Ziglar who wrote: “What you feed your mind determines your appetite.”

I interpreted this as determining in advance what we desire our mind to crave and feeding it accordingly, comparing it to the famous saying:

“Action precedes feeling.”

 

Linda Ryan Linda RyanLinda Ryan, a Success Coach who specializes in the power of the mind wrote:

“I think I may be about to disagree with you, Bob. I think feeling and action go hand-in-hand, yet I think feeling comes first. In terms of ‘priming the pump’ I want to get the good thoughts and feelings primed and then I take action. Whaddaya think?”

I responded: “Linda,  I think that ‘thought’ comes first because, as human beings, we cannot intentionally act on something we have not first thought. However, not only do we not have to wait to feel a certain way before acting on it, it is often counterproductive to do so.

For example, if I waited to write until I felt like it, I’d rarely write. And, if I waited to work out until I felt like it, I’d NEVER work out.

On the other hand, once I act on something and get into the rhythm of it, I often find myself getting into the flow and enjoying it. (Well, not so much with working out, but definitely with writing and most other things.) ;-)

Tom Ziglar than responded:

“I remember when I was a boy and I didn’t want to work out because I didn’t feel like it. Dad encouraged me to ‘just do it’ and wouldn’t you know after about 10 minutes of doing it I felt like doing it. It’s like the question about singing in the shower – ‘Do we sing because we are happy, or are we happy because we sing?’ The answer is…..Both!

“The key in all of this is to decide in advance the thought you want to have, and then follow through with the action that the thought requires you to take even when you don’t feel like it.”

I love it. Thank you, Linda and Tom for your very insightful thoughts and comments…and the action you took to share them with us! :-)

Of course, I hope you feel glad that you did! ;-)

Decisions Are Great – The Tools Are Also Important

Friday, March 23rd, 2012

In a recent post by Certified Go-Giver Coach, Linda Ryan, she suggested some great ideas for bringing yourself out of an emotional funk.

One of her readers wrote, “Why not just decide to be happy?”

It was an excellent question. And, knowing the reader personally, I know he is a successful business person with a great attitude and, I assume, happy, as well.

And, while there are those who really can simply make that decision and…be happy, that is not true for everyone; at least within their present life model.

For example, let’s take a person who has grown up in a family where they were taught life is miserable and all you can do is your best to survive. And, that happiness is not a natural state but simply something that only some lucky people have.

And, now, they are learning that is not necessarily the case. They are reading good books, listening to positive audios and ready to make a change based on this new information.

But, they’re still learning.

If that’s the case, he or she might need some “tools” that help them to apply that decision. Sometimes, just taking a personal accounting of all one is grateful for is enough to do it. And, sometimes, because life can really get us down, it’s important to — as Linda suggested — prepare in advance with that “bag of tricks.”

Of course, I totally agree with the reader that the first step is to simply make that decision! At the same time, don’t hesitate to use whatever “tools” you need to make it happen.

What do you think?