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Archive for the ‘Influence’ Category

A Tale of Two Frames

Friday, August 14th, 2015

It was the best of frames, it was the worst of frames. We’ve often discussed frames and framing in this blog. A frame can be defined as the foundation from which everything else involves.

In Adversaries into Allies: Master The Art of Ultimate Influence I say that when you set the proper frame for any encounter, you are 80 percent of the way toward the outcome you desire. And, the outcome you desire is obtaining the results you want while helping the other person to genuinely feel good about themselves, about the situation, and about you.

In other words, a true win/win. So, while visiting with my dear friend (and mentor) Dondi Scumaci and her husband Mark, I had the opportunity to hear from Dondi an experience she had in which two companies having the exact same desire…had two different ways of communicating it. One was an excellent example of positive framing while the other was an excellent example of…well, not so much excellent framing. :-)

In this conversation with the always-wise and fantastic Dondi, we learn what happened.

Enjoy!

Dondi Scumaci - Cultures reflect themselves

 

Amazing, isn’t it? More importantly, how will you take this lesson and make your future framing similar to and as effective as the positive example? Any similar stories you’d like to share with us? Please feel free to do so.

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Steal The Show – Wisdom from Michael Port

Monday, August 10th, 2015

One does not have to be an actor, a professional speaker or stand up comedian to be onstage. Many times we’re under the figurative spotlight whether we want to be or not. Maybe it’s a sales presentation to a skeptical committee. Perhaps you’re in front of your city council attempting to persuade them regarding an ordinance. Or, even an interview for that dream job.

Michael PortMy friend, Michael Port, has written a spectacular book on mastering the performance. Entitled, Steal The Show:  From Speeches, To Interviews, To Deal-Closing Pitches, How To Guarantee A Standing Ovation For All The Performances In Your Life, it is the fruit of all Michael’s wisdom in this area…and that says a LOT.

A former professional actor (including guest roles on Sex & The City, Law & Order, All My Children, etc.), he’s also a multi New York Times bestselling author including the classic, Book Yourself Solid. I’ve personally seen him work his magic in coaching people to dramatically up their presentation ability within minutes.

Yes, he’s that good. Had I not seen it myself, I might not have believed it!

Since the book is so comprehensive in terms of what makes for a spectacular presentation — and we don’t have hours to cover everything — I asked Michael about two key areas: his formula for telling stories that will have your audience at the edge of their seats…and how to effectively end your presentation in a way that will leave a lasting impression.
Steal the Show - Michael Port
And, as always…Michael delivered!

Enjoy this brief chat with an amazing pro!

After listening to Michael, can you imagine what it’ll be like to know everything that’s in his book?

As Michael shared at the end, visit www.StealTheShow.com and take advantage of his very special offer when you pre-order the book. Leave it to Michael to find a way that you can pre-order it, and read it now. :-)

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Missing The Communication Target?

Monday, June 29th, 2015

Adversaries into Allies - Bob BurgI’ll never forget when an early business mentor told me, “Burg, when the shooter misses the target…it ain’t the target’s fault.”

The older I get, and the more I study influence and communication, the more correct I believe he was.

How often do we try and get our point across but fail? It seemed that “what (s)he thought I said isn’t what I meant.” Or even, “what (s)he thought I meant isn’t what I said.”

Whose “fault” is this misunderstanding? Who is to “blame?”

I believe the answer is . . . “it doesn’t matter.” In my opinion, fault and blame are both irrelevant.

On the other hand, if we were to ask whose “responsibility” it was for the message not being received as intended, I’d say it is the sender’s.

Yes, the onus is on the communicator to ensure their message is understood.

When the late, Dr. Stephen R. Covey, in his classic, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People suggested (in Habit #5) that we “Seek first to understand, then to be understood,” he was certainly right on the mark. Doing so is vitally important in the communication process.

Both parts are important. Here, however, we are referring to the second part of that Habit.

You were not understood. Your message missed the mark. It did not hit its intended target.

If that’s the case, first, take responsibility for it. Then, look at why it happened and how to more effectively communicate that message next time.

Nine times out of ten, the major reason was that two different belief systems – yours and theirs – were at work in some way, confusing the issue.

And saying nine times out of ten is probably underestimating the cause by about nine tenths!

Key Point: Be sure that what you said and meant…is what they heard and understood. How? Ask enough clarifying questions to be sure.

The anguish it will save is well-worth those few extra moments.

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So happy to announce that the paperback edition of Adversaries into Allies is now available. If you would like to accelerate your people skills and Master The Art of Ultimate Influence…you may purchase the book on amazon.com or at your local bookseller.

The Referral-Based Mechanic

Thursday, May 28th, 2015

Referral-based Mechanic - Bob BurgIn his new book, Enhanced People Skills, John Terhune tells a great story about bringing his car to his mechanic for servicing (the warranty with his dealership had expired). The particular issue was a part that would have cost him well over $500 to repair.

After doing some research, the mechanic informed John that the part had been recalled by the manufacture and so John should take the car back to the dealership where they’d most likely replace the part at no charge. They did and John saved what would have been an unnecessary expense.

Did the mechanic lose anything?

Well, one might say he lost over $500. But, did he really? I don’t believe so. Not only would John now never even think of taking his car to anyone else; he eagerly and enthusiastically refers everyone to him. And, John is definitely one of those Centers of Influence who business owners and salespeople want as their Personal Walking Ambassador.

The mechanic benefited greatly from his decision to put John’s interests before his own immediate one.

Please don’t think, however, that the mechanic was being selfless (which I define as “incongruent with self”). He was not. First, he was acting congruently with his values — that being honest and placing the interests of the customer first is the right way to live life.

Secondly, he understands that it’s also the best way to conduct business. He knew his own business would be well-taken care of. Not through some magical thinking but rather for very logical reasons. When you place the other person’s interests first, they like you more and they trust you much more than they would otherwise.

Not only does that feel good…it’s very, very profitable!

Perhaps you’ve been in John’s situation, or the mechanic’s. Feel free to share stories of either.

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We loving seeing all the new members of our Go-Giver Ambassadors Facebook Page. Every morning, my awesome business partner, Kathy Tagenel posts an inspiring quote from John David Mann’s and my, The Go-Giver series that is designed to start your day off right and give you something to keep in mind throughout the day. Check out today’s quote and photo at http://www.facebook.com/groups/GoGiverAmbassadors/

Solving Their Biggest Problem

Friday, April 17th, 2015

Lean In - Sheryl SandbergIt makes sense, doesn’t it? Those who solve the biggest problems provide the biggest value and — as a result — earn the highest incomes.

In her bestselling book, Lean In, Facebook Chief Operating Officer, Sheryl Sandberg shares a wonderful story in this regard. Shortly after beginning at Facebook she was contacted by a woman named Lori Goler who was at that time a highly regarded executive at eBay. She told Sheryl:

“I want to apply to work with you at Facebook, so I thought about calling you and telling you all of the things I’m good at and all of the things I like to do. Then I figured that everyone was doing that. So instead, I want to ask you:

“What is your biggest problem, and how can I solve it?”

Sheryl was floored. As she related, in her career she’d hired thousands of people, “and no one had ever said anything remotely like that.”

In other words, Ms. Goler was asking how she could add value to the company; not how could the company add value to her.

Which question is most likely to get someone hired?

A while back we looked at the storied career of Kat Cole. Beginning as a restaurant hostess at age 17, she actively looked for ways to add value to the organization above and beyond what anyone asked and certainly way above and beyond what was expected. She was constantly solving problems and increasing her market value to the company.

At just 32 Kat was named CEO of Cinnabon and now, at age 35, she is CEO of Focus Brands, the company that owns Cinnabon and five other restaurant chains.

You needn’t be applying for a corporate job or be part of a big company in order to do this. Whether you are in sales, have a small company or…whatever you do, if you can seek ways to add value to people’s lives and businesses through solving their biggest problem(s), you are on your way to major, major business and life success!

What problems are you focused on solving in the marketplace?

Please feel free to share with us.