January 29th, 2014 by Bob Burg
In the final sentence of one of her recent daily emails, Esther Hicks wrote:
“You are determined to be freedom-seekers in a Mass Consciousness society that is determined to make you the same.”
What a powerful statement, and on so many levels!
In the context of her entire message, she was referring to internal freedom.
Yet, we can think about why physical, personal and economic freedom/liberty (what my favorite magazine, Reason would call “free minds and free markets”) is such a high ideal. The more freedom one has individually, the more prosperous and happy will be the society.
Yet, society, by its very nature, seeks to conform the individual.
While we cannot control society (even if we could, that would simply be another form of mass consciousness control Mrs. Hicks referred to) and we should not try and control other individuals, we can control ourselves.
In his classic, Man’s Search for Meaning, Nazi concentration camp survivor and psychiatrist, Dr. Viktor Frankl considered choosing one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances to be the highest level of freedom; the last of human freedoms. The one type of freedom that could never be taken.
So long as we do that, we can — to paraphrase the title of one of Harry Browne’s most famous books — “find freedom in an unfree world.”
January 21st, 2014 by Bob Burg
Recently on Facebook and Twitter I posted the following:
“How far can you push a rope? Not very far.
That’s why true influencers don’t push.”
A reader asked, “But if you think about how hard and how often to “pull” when are you being strategic and when merely manipulative?”
I thank him for caring enough to want to use influence for good.
First, a powerful influencer does not pull hard; they pull gently.
Regarding the second part of his question, it depends whether you are thinking only of yourself without caring how it affects the other person. That would be manipulation.
On the other hand, if you are focused on helping them; combining the benefits of your goal with THEIR wants, needs, desires, goals, and values then it’s very positive; what I would call “positive persuasion.”
It’s also important to interpret the quote in context. If a person wanted to utilize the message in order to manipulate, they could. But, it’s not good business and it’s not good life.
Once you obtain a reputation for being self-centered and manipulative, you’ll find people staying away from you in droves. And, even those people who must be around you and work with you will resist and perhaps even sabotage whenever possible.
If one wants to use the message of the quote in order to benefit those they are influencing, they can do that. And, that’s what great leaders; what great influencers do.
And, that’s why they are successful.
January 13th, 2014 by Bob Burg
The brilliant, Dr. Stephen Hawking said:
“The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge.”
One person commented that — in their opinion — the two are the same. My friend, Alice Flanders explained the difference:
“One person is ignorant, they do not know. the other person thinks they know, but they don’t know either. The person who is ignorant might decide that he needs to know and find out. The person who thinks he knows, but doesn’t, will act on the knowledge that he thinks he has instead of finding out the correct answer.”
I loved how Alice explained that.
In my opinion, it comes down to — as do so many things — our belief system; the lens through which we view our world.
If we already believe we know a “thing” and are not interested in exploring an alternative view, then we might be right…or we might not be.
That can be a problem in terms of living up to our full potential and effectiveness.
Or, as the amazing thinker and wordsmith, Mark Twain said:
“It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.”
The older I get, the more I continue to be amazed by how much I think I know that just ain’t so.
What about you? Do you find the same to be true for you? And, if so, do you find that to be scary? Encouraging? Perhaps, a little of both?
January 3rd, 2014 by Bob Burg
Jedi Knight, prosperity authority and critical thinker, Randy Gage tweeted:
“The next time your core beliefs are challenged — try being curious instead of furious.”
This one golden nugget can make an absolutely huge difference in your personal effectiveness.
As discussed in Adversaries into Allies, as human beings we are basically run by an operating system or “belief system” we don’t even realize we are run by. Yes, we are conscious of many of our beliefs…we’re just not conscious of being controlled by them. Or, of our emotional attachment to them.
That’s why it’s so easy to become defensive when someone says something that runs contrary to our beliefs.
But, is that other person wrong? Maybe they are. Are they right? Could be. Are they neither wrong nor right but just see things differently than you do? That’s also a possibility.
However, the only way we can be in a position to explore those possibilities is to reason them out with a sense of conscious-based logic rather than to react unconsciously and defensively.
If you want to be an Ultimate Influencer, a great leader, and the most effective human being possible, it’s imperative that you allow your core beliefs to be put to the test.
That doesn’t mean you should be so open-minded that your brains fall out. But curious enough to consider some alternate possibilities.
Take Randy Gage’s advice and exchange “furiosity” for curiosity.
Try it next time. If it feels a bit uncomfortable…you’re probably on the right track.
December 31st, 2013 by Bob Burg
In her smash bestseller, Escape from Cubicle Nation, former corporate consultant Pamela Slim paved the way for thousands of corporate employees to transition from Dilbert-like existences to successful entrepreneurship.
In her newest book, Body of Work — what Robert Sutton has called “THE modern career handbook” — she brings us a step-by-step process for determining the personal legacy we leave at the end of our lives including all the tangible and intangible things we have created. In a sense, this is our life’s true mission and purpose.
In this interview, Pamela takes us through some of the important concepts and steps to get us on our way to tying it all together, as our…body of work.
Enjoy this hugely valuable chat with one of the wisest people I know, as well as one of my favorites, Pam Slim:
During our discussion, Pam referred to one of the exercises early in the book, which was:
“Imagine yourself many years in the future, on the last day of your life, looking back at the things that you created, developed, nurtured, and contributed. What, ideally, would you like to see?”
Great question. What ideally would YOU like to see?
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