Are You Confusing “Nice” with Something Else?
Do you ever hear people say things like, “that person is too nice.” Usually, the context is that, “he or she is so nice that they are constantly being taken advantage of.”
Please understand this is based on the very false premise that “nice” and “taken advantage of” have any natural correlation. They do not.
Don’t confuse being nice with being a doormat. If you are nice AND being taken advantage of, it’s not because you are nice. It’s because you are allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
If this seems to happen to you on a regular basis, begin to operate from a place of conscious awareness; ask yourself, do I simply not know how to tactfully (but effectively) set boundaries and say no?
Or, is there an “emotional payoff” to allowing myself to be taken advantage of?
Remember, while “nice/kind” is a natural state of being…being taken advantage of is not.
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