Comments on: Deflection Via The “Parry”

By: Bob Burg

Bob Burg — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 02:02:56 +0000

David, thank you for your encouraging feedback. So glad you enjoyed the post!

By: @motodbc

@motodbc — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 19:07:50 +0000

I am a bit late coming to this post but I have to agree with all the other postings. I like the simplicity of the technique, basically it has only the one action (so I should be able to remember that) but still allows a range of follow ups but with a changed emphasis. You can agree with it or negate it and then channel it into something less intimidating and much more constructive. Thanks Bob.

By: Bob Burg

Bob Burg — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 22:10:03 +0000

Thank you, Sandi. I’m really glad you found this to be helpful. What I’d love for it to do is make it so that you are comfortable enough with these kinds of situations from now on, that you know you’ve handled it effectively (and tactfully) and *without* feeling as though you were a doormat (nothing good about being anyone’s doormat) . Yes, it’s something that takes some practice; more the practice of keeping it in mind. And, it’s worth it. One thing you can do which is very helpful, is to rehearse in advance situations that could come up where the Parry would be useful. Like an astronaut simulating a mission hundreds of times before it really happening, when it finally does (if it does) you’ll “already have been there” in your mind. I’m rooting for you. Please let us know how things go!

By: Sandi Stillings

Sandi Stillings — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 21:49:43 +0000

I LOVE this!!
I am an avoidance person rather than just taking on these kinds of people; I avoid them.
I’m a peacemaker, maybe even to the point of being a bit of a doormat. When there are those who seem to enjoy contention it is not something I even entertain – I am outta there – gone.
“Games people play” is not something I understand. The devils’ advocate players. I am not dumb, I just do not get it.
I DO love a quick wit and am easily entertained & impressed by those who posses it. I’m just not one of them.
This will take practice, for me, I can tell!! This is a “Print, read, re-read, digest and practice” piece!! Powerful. Great advice. Thanks so-o, much.

By: Bob Burg

Bob Burg — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 15:47:19 +0000

Hi Kathy, thank you for your kind feedback about the post. And, you’re right; “attached” would work just as well as “attacked” LOL